Get to Know a Writing Buddy

Some clichés are true. Take Writing can be a lonely profession. Not only do we work alone, but there just aren't that many people who are genuinely interested in our process. The reasons for that lack of connection vary, but may include one of the following ...

1. Non-writers don't understand much about the creative process, so have no clue about why your frustrations feel so deeply discouraging to you. Sould they get it if you told them - What if I've already written all I'll ever be able to write? What if I'm really used up? Will I ever get another viable book or article idea again? Maybe I can’t get the tone right because the book was a bad idea in the first place!

2. They think you already have the best of all worlds, so they can't work up any sympathy for your whining. Come on admit it - we do whine. Of course it’s always for good reason, but that may not be so obvious to people in other lines of work.

3. They'd far rather talk about the gilded widget problems at their office. What are gilded widgets? Are readers interested in them? Where can I research the history and future of the global widget markets?

4. They're just tired of hearing it. OK, that may be a valid point.

So you go home feeling mildly martyred and vastly underappreciated. And then beat yourself up for feeling that way. Right?

But wait! There's help available. Find a writing buddy with whom you can swap stories of the new project that’s still pecking its way out of the egg, share your questions about styling and formatting a book, and especially proclaim the ecstasy of a great writing session, day or month!

A writing friend with whom you can break bread is the warmest of connections. But finding an email writing buddy can also be hugely rewarding. After conversations, in person or electronic, with these friends, you’ll come away with such writing excitement and joy in your heart, you’ll race to get back to the keyboard.

It’s well worth the effort to find another writer or two, preferably ones who have at least some similar goals and experience to yours, and form that beautiful connection. Attend local writers' groups, sign on to similar interest email groups, or spread the word to all you friends.

I know whereof I speak.

Happy connecting ~

Linda