One more life lesson came my way last night. A dear, longtime friend and I had had trouble finding a good time for her to bring a "quesadilla party" to my kitchen. So rather than cancel yet again, I didn't let on that I was wiped out from a minor touch of something unpleasant and short on sleep because of it.
Have you ever thought, "I can do this. I don't want to rain on our party again!" - and stuck with the plan? It feels like a giving thing. My friend and I could still have our quesadilla feast and watch "Treasure Island." All I had to do is sit in my chair. The thing is, I never considered that maybe I wouldn't be very good company.
This morning we talked on the phone about something entirely different. But her first words were about last night: "You should have told me you weren't feeling good! I watched you during the evening and you looked like you were dragged out and miserable."
Hmmm ... I'd say the lesson to be learned from that is that if I'm not feeling up to a fun evening, I'll probably be lousy company. Which is pretty much a lose/lose situation.
The next time I'll consider my friend's comfort and enjoyment as well as mine and make my decision based on that rather than my usual "tough it out" philosophy.
Thank you, Vera ~
Linda
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